Things Are Changing

As I think about the past and how things were when I grew up, I've noticed that things have taken a change for the worst. Everything from music to parenting to just overall respect. Kids these days have utterly no respect for their parents or any authoritative figure for that matter. The way I hear some of these kids talk to their parents...I wouldn't even talk to a wall that way! If I even thought about talking back to my mother I knew better than that. I witnessed a child tell his mother to "shut up and leave me alone". I don't know about you all, but I think I might have needed dentures after that one.  Music has taken a turn for the worst, too. It's to the point that I won't even listen to the radio anymore, because all you hear is sex, hoes, money, killing, and drugs. Back when I was growing up, music had meaning and told stories. Nowadays the only story you get is how they had sex with this one or how much of a thug someone is..and quite frankly I'm over it. Respect is the biggest thing that has taken a blow in today's society. You never find someone that will hold a door for you or say something as simple as "excuse me" or even a "bless you" when you sneeze. Southern hospitality has become southern disrespect. Things have got to change and as Michael Jackson said, "change starts with the man in the mirror". If individual efforts are made to improve these aspects, then overall change is inevitable.

Drama and Karma

As long as I've been living, I can truly say that I have yet to encounter an individual that enjoys drama.  In my opinion the majority of.drama starts with some word of mouth (aka a rumor) and could easily be avoided. The situation tends to become worse when stories get twisted and lies are told in order to tarnish someone's reputation. There is a saying that I often quote, and it goes: "What.you heard about me may be true,but it may also be fake as the person that told you." This just simply means not to be so quick to believe what you hear, and always to consider the source of who told you.

I am a firm believer in reaping what you sew, so therefore I believe that karma will indefinitely take its rightful path in someone's life, whether it be good or bad. I was always taught to do unto others as I would have them to do unto me. The drama starters and rumor makers have got what they deserve coming to them, so in my mind there is no need to try to get even.  Seeking revenge puts you on the same level as them and karma will get you just as fast as it got them. Be patient and allow karma to do its job and then you will feel avenged rather than getting revenge. No one escapes karma so because it's all around us and is inevitable. Patience, and you will see your just reward.

Put The Blame On Me

Often times, when things go wrong in a relationship, friendship, or just life in general, one tends to put the blame on someone or something. It is so much easier to place the blame on someone or something rather than doing what actually in some cases should be done. Sometimes the lense must be turned inward and take responsibility for our actions.  Although the actions may have been influenced or provoked, ultimately one is responsible for his/her own actions. So, one cannot always be so quick to place blame unless he or she has taken a look within. This is not always the case, but there are certain situations that could have been avoided, had another path of action been chosen.

Single Mom

<p>So this one is going to be a little more personal than the rest. If you were raised by a single mom or are a single mom, then you will understand where I'm coming from. Being raised by a single mother is quite an experience. They sacrifice so much just so that they can make sure that their children have everything they need, even if it means she may not have something she needs. These are some of tje strongest women that are walking this earth yet they are often overlooked and under appreciated. A mother's love is the greatest love you will ever feel, because it is unconditional and they love with every ounce of their being. You're only given one mother and that mother should not be taken for granted. Too many times I've seen a mother be taken for granted by her children, only to have her taken to heaven and the children to be ledt with nothing. You must respect your mother and honor her because she will do anything to make sure that you are taken care of.  I have the utmost respect for single mothers because I watched my own sacrifice her food and money just so that my siblings and I could have what we needed. That kind of love can't be bought or taught, but only given from the depths of her heart. I am, and will forever be grateful for the mother I have, as you should be too.

Love vs. Obsession

Is there a such thing as loving someone too much? No, but there is a fine line between love and obsession. When you love someone, you trust that person and there is no doubt that what you see is what you get. When someone is obsessed, they have issues with trust, so they try to compensate for there lack of trust. This is where the constant questioning, and the checking of everything from digital belongings to the mail come in to play. Trust is the basis of any relationship, so without trust, there cannot be true love. The obsessed person wants to love, but they can't wholeheartedly love someone with a lack of trust. Trust is a difficult insecurity to overcome, and one that lacks trust may never completely trust again. There will always be that doubt instilled in that individuals mind, which makes this person very difficult to be with. To overcome trust issues, one must be shown that he/she can trust. Actions speak much louder than words, but in some cases it doesn't matter what you do or say, that person just doesn't trust. There are other factors that play into obsession such as: a sense of security, self-esteem, etc, but the line drawn between obsession and love can be defined by one word...TRUST!

Time

You ever feel as though there is so much to do with so very little time? Of course you have.  Ever feel like your friends always have so much going on that you just never see each other? Well, respect those that make time for you in their busy schedule, but love those that don't even look at their schedule when you need them. A friend is there for you when it is convenient, but a good will be there for you regardless of the circumstance.  Realize who your true, good friends are. Love them, cherish them, and be there for them just as they are for you. There are very few people these days that can be trusted, so when you find a friend that you can trust, hold on because good friends are hard to come by.

Reasons

I'm sure everyone has heard the saying, "Everything happens for a reason". While that may be a true statement, it is often a hard statement to believe. The hardest part most times is waiting for the reason. Every experience, good or bad, should be seen as a learning experience. Whether it made you feel good or it hurt you to the core, every single thing that you have been through has taught you something about you or about others. So, although reasons may not always be apparent, there is some lesson to be learned from everything.

Perfection

So often we find ourselves searching for the perfect person...that ideal person that is in actuality non-existent.  The person we should be searching for is not Mr. or Mrs. Perfect, but rather the person that is perfect for us. The perfect person would become stagnet and boring because they've already reach perfection so nothing would ever change.  With someone that is perfect for you, you both can grow and change and develop a love together. Also, searching is not something we should be doing when it comes to love.  Searching often leads to settling for less than what we expect, which in turn leads to heartache and hurt.  We have to learn to overcome insecurities that cause us to feel as though there is a void that needs to be filled by a certain someone.  With the acceptance of being in solitude, we can overcome these insecurities.  Once we have accepted solitude, a relationship no longer becomes a priority, but rather a casualty. What we all have in store for us will come in due time. So, show some patience and that "perfection" goal will be obtained.

Strength

No matter how strong of a person you are, there is always someone that can make you weak. To cope with weakness, we must find the strength to let go, and the acceptance of past will give you the strength to move on.

A litle bit of advice...

Okay, so here is why I made this blog.  Here is where you post your comments and ask me whatever you would like.  Also, if you would just like to talk, go for it. I'm all ears. =]

A friendly word for today.

Before you assume, learn.  Before you judge, understand.  Before you hurt, feel. Before you say, think. =]